There is a song from the “last century” that recently came to my mind- We Don’t Need Another Hero. I admit that I didn’t know most of the words, but it came to me after having a conversation with a good friend and client. I told her that I believe that men shouldn’t be visitors in their child’s lives. What do I mean by that? Well, most people who come to me for custody concerns have no custody order in place. They are frustrated by the actions of the other parent and want to know what their rights are. I always say, “You have the same rights as the other parent.” Unfortunately, it is mostly men who need this speech. I rarely have to tell a woman that the father can’t control access to your child, but men often seem to think that they must ask permission to be a parent. The problem with that attitude is that it often translates into waiting on an invitation to help. For anyone who has been to child support court, you know that responsibility figures pretty large there. Often, the parent with primary custody is saying that the other parent doesn’t get what the child needs. The Defendant is saying, no one told me. Let’s face it, we all know that children need food, shelter, clothing, and the occasional ride to practice. So how do we find ways to be good parents when the other party is just unreasonable? I suggest consulting a lawyer sooner, rather than later. If you are separating from someone that you share a child with, it is better to make your expectations known before you become entrenched in a plan. No one wants to look up in a few years and realize that their hope for joint custody has become one weekend a month and dinner on Wednesday. Planning now can prevent problems in the future. Feel free to call the office at 610-874-1900 or e-mail [email protected] So for all of you parents out there, I say, Children don’t need another hero, they just need someone to help them find life beyond the Thunderdome. Have a great day!
“We Don’t Need Another Hero” OUT OF THE RUINS OUT FROM THE WRECKAGE CAN`T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE THIS TIME WE ARE THE CHILDREN THE LAST GENERATION WE ARE THE ONES THEY LEFT BEHIND AND I WONDER WHEN WE ARE EVER GONNA CHANGE LIVING UNDER THE FEAR, TILL NOTHING ELSE REMAINS WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND THUNDERDOME LOOKING FOR SOMETHING WE CAN RELY ON THERE`S GOTTA BE SOMETHING BETTER OUT THERE LOVE AND COMPASSION THEIR DAY IS COMING ALL ELSE ARE CASTLES BUILT IN THE AIR AND I WONDER WHEN WE ARE EVER GONNA CHANGE LIVING UNDER THE FEAR TILL NOTHING ELSE REMAINS ALL THE CHILDREN SAY WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND THUNDERDOME SO WHAT DO WE DO WITH OUR LIFES WE LEAVE ONLY A MARK WILL OUR STORY SHINE LIKE A LIGHT OR END IN THE DARK GIVE IT ALL OR NOTHING WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND THUNDERDOME