I know we don't think of the 1970s as a time of racial progression, but listening to this song had me thinking. Was it easier to talk about race in the immediate aftermath of the civil rights movement? Could we acknowledge race without being afraid to say the words? Can you imagine a song today that said, "White boy?"
There is a part of me that feels silly blogging about race. After all, I'm a lawyer, not a racial activist. It's just that people ask me about race quite a bit. They wonder about my opinion on interracial families and things like how parent custody is influenced by race. I tell them that in an ideal world, it makes no difference, but that we don't live in an ideal world.
So, for all of my parents out there who are fighting for custody of your bi-racial children, I say first- deal with it. Deal with the fact that you at one point were very close to someone of the opposite race. Deal with the fact that their family may not be as open minded as you would like. Don't, however, deal with your child being abused. Don't keep your child from activities or events that will allow them to feel close to their other racial heritage.
The standard for child custody remains- The Best Interests of the Child. If you can show that you will do your best to embrace your child's unique racial and cultural heritage, you will present better in court.
At the end of the day, don't be afraid to talk about race. Don't let your children grow up ashamed to ask questions. And sometimes, you may need to put on your cool dancing shoes and sing, "Play that Funky Music, White boy."
Do you remember that song from the 80's- Just Another Manic Monday? Well, it is one of those for me. I have been traveling across Delaware County trying to make the world a better place and next I have to go to the Elementary School to do crafts with my first grader. I wish I could just breathe.
We are still here in the office on Mondays, but it is probably the worst day for you to call if you need answers. What do we suggest? Well, that's simple, call whenever you need help, but if you really want to talk to Jacquie, try to wait until Tuesday or Wednesday. We try to handle all weekend emergencies on Monday so that leaves little time for thoughtful reflection. If you want to kick around some ideas about your case, schedule a phone appointment for later in the week.
We love hearing from our clients and look forward to hearing from you. Happy Valentine's Day!
I spent some time meeting with a friend today talking about a book that he is working on about Entrepreneurs. I also spent some time talking to another Entrepreneur yesterday about the skills needed to successfully maintain a business. Then, as I was fiddling with the radio today, I heard the early strains of Miley Cyrus' song, "The Climb." The words remind us that there will always be another mountain to climb.
Entrepreneurs must be a brave sort. They have to understand that there will always be new and different challenges. Sometimes they will lose, but without those losses, they can never experience the big wins. However, one of the most important things about being an Entrepreneur is setting winning goals. A good lawyer will help you.
My clients have learned that I don't just do what they ask for, I get to the root of their true goals. If you ask for help forming a corporation, I will also counsel you about other business entities. If you ask about financing, I will ask about your business plan. If you are a client of Jones & Associates, you can expect that we will think about your big picture- your climb. As the song says, sometimes you will lose, but with proper planning, you will win more than you will lose.
By Jacquie L. Jones
Join us on a journey of discovery as we explore issues of custody, criminality, and Probate especially in Delaware County, PA.