There are several holidays in the Month of February, but for some strange reason, many people tend to believe this upcoming Holiday is specifically designated just for couples around the world. There are some people who believe that only couples have the right to have a love filled, spectacular Valentine’s Day! Those people are sadly mistaken!
Here at Jones and Associates Law, PC we advise our clients to think beyond the stigmas surrounding Valentine’s Day. Many of our separated, newly divorced, and single clients have been bombarded with the stereotypical beliefs that they should spend their Valentine’s Day crying, throwing pity parties, and feeling miserable! This is not so!
Valentine’s Day can be a day of love for anyone! We encourage our clients who are separated or going through a divorce to take some time this weekend to focus on and celebrate you! Often times while in marriages, people typically put the needs of their significant other before their own, this year we encourage our separated and newly single clients to embrace self love on this Valentine’s Day.
Here are some tips on things you can do to exercise the love you have for yourself on Valentine’s Day!
1. Give yourself the gift of time! Think about yourself, and do not feel guilty about it!
2. Celebrate and reward yourself! Treat yourself to a nice steak dinner (or the equivalent if you aren’t a fan of red meat). Buy the new book, get the manicure and pedicure, treat yourself!
3. Relax! Have a spa day, or run a hot bubble bath. Whatever it is that relaxes you, do it!
4. Do anything you want to do! With no regrets, and enjoy loving yourself.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all of our clients, but especially to those who are learning and rediscovering self- love!!
Jones and Associates Law, PC would like to extend a special invitation to our clients, followers and friends to assist us with collecting donations for the Domestic Abuse Project of Delaware County. The Domestic Abuse Project of Delaware County seeks to prevent domestic violence and is committed to providing services that meet the needs of victims while enabling them to move forward toward self-sufficiency.
If you are interested in donating, you may do so by coming to our office located 105 West Third Street, Media PA 19063 and place any of the items listed below inside of our donation box in the lobby area. We will accept donations Monday- Friday 9:00 A.M- 4:30 P.M today until February 28, 2017.
NEW toiletries for adults and children
Disposable diapers (specifically for bigger babies and toddlers)
Feminine hygiene products
NEW intimate apparel- all sizes
NEW warm and cold causal clothing
Gloves, hats, scarves
Backpacks and umbrellas
Fans-child proof and new only
Household products, small appliances, paper goods, and cleaning supplies
Linens- twin and full size, kitchen/bath towels and cloths
Kid friendly arts, craft and games
"B!$&# f#*% You. You better get another PFA, because if you try some dumb shit you will regret it." This was an actual text message sent to a client. Now, my client sent back some equally harsh words, but at the end of the day, I found myself copying these words to present to a Judge. That's right, a Judge! The former couple were fighting over custody, child support, and ultimately Profection From Abuse. Each was claiming to be the better parent and the best option, but the evidence we had to present to the presiding Judge showed hatefulness. Can you imagine how mortified this young person must have felt when these words were read aloud in court? Well, I don't have to image because I see it every day.
As an attorney, I do the best I can to reseearch the parties. That research often shows deplorable Instagram or Facebook accounts. There may be disgusting text messages that include threats of violence. Ultimately, people are treating technology like it's a secret diary. It is not. I urge you to think before you tweet, text, or post. What you write may come back to bite you, and ruin your case.
If you’ve ever wanted to know how to make it through the holidays without fighting with your Ex over custody, then you’re reading the right article. That’s because you’re about to discover my easy 3 step method for a stress free holiday for divorced parents.
And the good news is that this method works even if you don’t have a lawyer.
Step 1: Review Blank Custody Order/Agreement
Many people who’re new to world of custody disputes don’t even realize that they need to do this step before they head to court. And that’s why a lot of people who try to get agreements end up failing – they’re simply missing this crucial step.
So, the first thing you need to do is go to the court house and see the blank custody forms. They will tell you what areas you should be concerned with when crafting your first custody order/agreement.
You’ll find that this part of the process goes much more smoothly if you apply these tips and tricks:
Once you’ve taken a look at blank agreements and order, and thought about your values, then you can move on to the next step…
Step 2: Make a detailed plan
The next thing you need to do is make a very detailed custody plan. When many people first started their custody case, they made a lot of mistakes. Now that I’ve helped hundreds of others do it, I see a lot of people have a tendency to make the same mistakes. So let me share with you the top mistakes and how to avoid them:
Most of these common mistakes can be avoided by proper planning. Before deciding on an elaborate custody plan, talk to your attorney about what works and what pitfalls are common to each type of plan.
Step 3: Get to Court early
At this step you’re likely to notice that your previous plans haven’t worked and you are in a crunch situation. The one thing you don’t want to do is panic, or worse yet, violate a custody order. So, what you need to do is get to court quickly. Do not wait until the last minute!
I still remember one time when I was planning to leave work early to bake cookies with my young children. I had pushed through most of my work and planned a leisurely day until I got a frantic call from a client. His ex-wife was threatening to take the kids away before Christmas and he was afraid he would miss his scheduled holiday time. I quickly filed an Emergency Petition and got a date the day before the courts closed for the holidays. After speaking with him, I discovered that this wasn’t a new issue. She had told him of her plans months ago, but he hadn’t agreed. She thought he was being unreasonable denying the kids a trip when he knew months ago. He thought she was being unreasonable planning a trip that interfered with his time. I learned from this, and other cases, that there are some ways to prevent this last minute dash to the courthouse.
And there you have it – a simple 3 step method for divorced parents to reduce their holiday stress. Now that you know how to negotiate this thorny issue, there’s just one thing left for you to do: take action.
So get to it, and soon you too will sail through the holiday custody without a care in the world!
Imagine a very pregnant woman enters the bar where you are bartending and asks you to serve her a gin and tonic. You look around, but don't see her with anyone else. The drink is for her. Do you refuse to serve her alcohol? Well, in New York, you may be in violation of discrimination laws but should you be? Is this just another law designed to legislate away moral choices? Is this an important step in anti-discrimination laws?
If I were a bartender, I would be concerned. Not about discriminating, but about liability. A bartender can be sued if they serve someone who later drives drunk. There are dram shop liability laws that outline that a bartender should not "over serve" alcohol. Could pregnancy be the next frontier? Could a lawyer one day bring suit against the bar if the child is born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome?
When David Hasselhoff was ordered to pay $21,000 a month in alimony, it may have seemed like a small price to pay. After all, The Hoff (as some call him) was a much sought after star in America and notably abroad. Now, at 63 with a $100,000 a month income, that alimony payment seems more like a burden. To make it easier for us to understand, what if it were $210 a month for someone who only makes $1000? Does that change your mind?
In Pennsylvania, it may not matter what the numbers because the law is clear. If you agree to pay permanent alimony, it cannot be modified. That's right. If the court orders you to pay, it can be modified based on a change in circumstances, but if you agree on a set amount of alimony, you can't modify it. Sounds harsh right? Well maybe not. The court decides what's fair based on current circumstances, therefore the Court can change the order when your fortunes change. When you make an alimony agreement, you are gambling on future income and hoping to have certainty.
The law provides, in part, " In the absence of a specific provision to the contrary appearing in the agreement, a provision regarding the disposition of existing property rights and interests between the parties, alimony, alimony pendente lite, counsel fees or expenses shall not be subject to modification by the court."
So, before you get the divorce, get the facts. You may not have Hasselfhoff money, but I bet you want to protect your cash anyway.
Nothing can make up for the many years this innocent man spent in prison, but being released just in time to see his son graduate from college was a true blessing.
I'm proud to be an adoptive Mother and an adoption attorney. I support forever homes for children. I would buy a whole gallon of Lemonade for this great cause.
The music stopped on April 21, 2016 as the world lost the incomparable Prince Rogers Nelson. As a fan, I am sorry for the loss. As an attorney, I am horrified by this latest news. It would seem Prince may have died intestate. That is a fancy word for "without a will." With an estate that is already worth over a hundred million dollars and likely to grow every year, the battle to control his fortune could be epic. Don't leave your family scrambling, call us to handle our estate planning today.
For a longer video of the Prince Estate Story, see below:
We've all done it. We've heard someone tell a story about something going on in their life and wondered why things turned out so differently for us. In the arena of legal cases, we do the same thing. We try to make sense of the difference by blaming the court system, the Judge or the lawyer. While it is tempting to look for someone to blame, be careful. The difference in results may not be as simple as you think.
1. Your case is nothing like your friends
Your friend has won every motion, you haven't. Your lawyer is a hack right? Well, maybe not. Sometimes in our haste to make unflattering comparisons, you forget that you are mixing apples and oranges. You may be losing motions in your DUI case, but your friend is suing someone for a DUI related car accident. They may both involve the same thing, but one is a criminal case and the other is a civil case. They are not remotely the same. The objectives are not the same. Comparing them will get you nothing.
2. Your facts are different
On the surface, your custody case is just like your friend's. You are both divorced with young children and your ex is fighting you for custody. You may even have the same lawyer. You can't figure out why your friend got full custody and you are still fighting. The simple answer is the facts. While your friend may tell you everything they think is relevant, they often don't know what the tipping point was for the Judge. Also, they sometimes don't tell you the details like how they had to show 3 years worth of negative drug test results or that their ex had an undiagnosed psychiatric illness. No case is the same because no two people are the same.
3. Your lawyer is different
Seems simple. Different lawyers have different strategies. In fact, even the same lawyer has different strategies for different cases. You need to focus on finding an attorney who fits with the facts of your case, and YOUR style. Even the best lawyer in the world can't get a good result with bad facts and a bad attorney/client relationship.
So remember, if you are not sure about the best method for getting a good result in your case, stop comparing. Each case is unique. Make your case decisions based on your own uniqueness.
By Jacquie L. Jones
Join us on a journey of discovery as we explore issues of custody, criminality, and Probate especially in Delaware County, PA.