We Don't Need Another Hero

There is a song from the "last century" that recently came to my mind- We Don't Need Another Hero.  I admit that I didn't know most of the words, but it came to me after having a conversation with a good friend and client.  I told her that I believe that men shouldn't be visitors in their child's lives.

What do I mean by that?  Well, most people who come to me for custody concerns have no custody order in place.  They are frustrated by the actions of the other parent and want to know what their rights are.  I always say, "You have the same rights as the other parent."  Unfortunately, it is mostly men who need this speech.  I rarely have to tell a woman that the father can't control access to your child, but men often seem to think that they must ask permission to be a parent.  The problem with that attitude is that it often translates into waiting on an invitation to help.

For anyone who has been to child support court, you know that responsibility figures pretty large there.  Often, the parent with primary custody is saying that the other parent doesn't get what the child needs.  The Defendant is saying, no one told me.  Let's face it, we all know that children need food, shelter, clothing, and the occasional ride to practice.  So how do we find ways to be good parents when the other party is just unreasonable?

I suggest consulting a lawyer sooner, rather than later.  If you are separating from someone that you share a child with, it is better to make your expectations known before you become entrenched in a plan.  No one wants to look up in a few years and realize that their hope for joint custody has become one weekend a month and dinner on Wednesday.  Planning now can prevent problems in the future.  Feel free to call the office at 610-874-1900 or e-mail jones@mychesterlawyer.com

So for all of you parents out there, I say, Children don't need another hero, they just need someone to help them find life beyond the Thunderdome.

Have a great day! 

"We Don't Need Another Hero"

OUT OF THE RUINS
OUT FROM THE WRECKAGE
CAN`T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE THIS TIME
WE ARE THE CHILDREN
THE LAST GENERATION
WE ARE THE ONES THEY LEFT BEHIND
AND I WONDER WHEN WE ARE EVER GONNA CHANGE
LIVING UNDER THE FEAR, TILL NOTHING ELSE REMAINS

WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO
WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME
ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND
THUNDERDOME

LOOKING FOR SOMETHING
WE CAN RELY ON
THERE`S GOTTA BE SOMETHING BETTER OUT THERE
LOVE AND COMPASSION
THEIR DAY IS COMING
ALL ELSE ARE CASTLES BUILT IN THE AIR
AND I WONDER WHEN WE ARE EVER GONNA CHANGE
LIVING UNDER THE FEAR TILL NOTHING ELSE REMAINS

ALL THE CHILDREN SAY
WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO
WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME
ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND
THUNDERDOME

SO WHAT DO WE DO WITH OUR LIFES
WE LEAVE ONLY A MARK
WILL OUR STORY SHINE LIKE A LIGHT
OR END IN THE DARK
GIVE IT ALL OR NOTHING

WE DON`T NEED ANOTHER HERO
WE DON`T NEED TO KNOW THE WAY HOME
ALL WE WANT IS LIFE BEYOND
THUNDERDOME



Posted by Chester Lawyer at 12/10/2010 11:53 AM