Children may be resilient, but they are also impacted by change. From infancy to the teenage years, divorce can significantly alter a child’s life and how they process the changes going on around them. Thus, it is important that parents realize this and approach this topic with care when moving forward with a divorce and talking to their children about it.
When a child custody agreement is reached, either through negotiation, mediation or litigation, it is not only the parent who needs to adjust for the custody order in place. Parents will need to help their children adjust to the custody arrangement as well.
Adjustments for Custody Arrangement
Breaking the news to your child that you are getting divorced is not easy; however, it is a necessary conversation to have, depending on the age of the child. Change is a major thing in anyone’s life, but it is especially impactful for children. Thus, it is imperative that you consider how to make your child feel comfortable, helping them ease into the new child custody arrangement.
How You Can Help Your Child
While each and every child has unique needs, there are some steps you can take as a parent to help your child adjust to the custody agreement. To begin, you should maintain consistency as best as possible. Have them attend the same school, participate in the same activities and continue with their regular routine. Next, ensure that your children have their own space with each parent. This provides a sense of security and stability.
Next, it is important to listen to your kids. If they want to talk about their feelings and needs, as a parent, you should listen without judgment. Help them feel comfortable about opening up. Finally, create a time for fun. While it is an emotional time, it is important to still include fun activities during this time of adjustment.
Divorce is something you can never be fully prepared for. It is an emotional process that can contain complex legal issues while also requiring significant life adjustments. Thus, it is important to be aware of you rights and legal options as you move forward with a family law matter.