For amicable divorces, nesting can help with co-parenting

By Jones & Associates Law P.C.

While many may think that an amicable divorce is impossible, that is simply not true. In fact, many couples, especially older couples who married young, simply grow apart. For these couples who had children during their marriage, they look for ways to maximize co-parenting after the divorce and minimize trauma during the divorce. And, for amicable divorcees, nesting can offer both to Media, Pennsylvania, parents.


Nesting, also known as birdnesting, is a unique way of divorcing where the family home is maintained; the child’s life remains, largely, the same and the parents travel to and from the child. This means that during the nesting period, the child stays in the family home and continues on with their life without regard to the divorce. This means that the drama of divorce is avoided for the entirety of the nesting period.

This is the opposite of a traditional divorce where the family home is sold, the profits split, two separate homes are purchased or rented and the child shuttles back and forth from parent to parent.

Maximizing the Nesting Period

To maximize your nesting period, the family should go to family counseling. This will ensure your child appropriately handles their new reality before the nesting period ends. In addition, both spouses should engage in individual counseling to also help process the ending of their marriage to start their new life in a healthy mental health space.

Financial Benefits

Nesting can also help reduce the costs associated with your Media, Pennsylvania, divorce. For example, during divorce, the child’s items are usually split between the two new homes, and then each parent purchases the remaining items that the child needs at each home. This is entirely avoided during the nesting period.

Living costs can also be shared. For example, for super-amicable couples, the family home can be shared during the nesting phase. Alternatively, they can share an off-site property and share those costs as well.

The Nesting Phase

Of course, the downside to nesting is that you still maintain a much closer co-parenting relationship than typical divorcees. This is why only amicable divorcees can utilize the process. Moreover, nesting is only temporary, with most experts stating that 6 months should be the maximum. However, before speaking with your spouse about nesting, it may be a good idea to speak with your Delaware County family law attorney.